IT'S LOVE
By: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan, May 17, 2008
If
you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle
with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose
to rest in the other person's heart. If in some instances, you find
someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored
that love came and called at your door but gently refuse the gift you
cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you
deal with love is how love deals with you and all our hearts feel the
same pains and joys. Even if our lives and ways are different. If you
fall in love with another and he/she falls in love with you. But at
some point love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or assess
blame, just let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. For
sure you will know it in time.
Remember that you don't choose
love. Love chooses you and all you can really do is accept it for all
its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way if fills you to
overflowing then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person
who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in
spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can. This is
where many lover go wrong. Having been so long without love and they
begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from
them.
Its like the first blush of new love filled to
overflowing, but as their love cools down they revert to seeing love as
a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become
someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it
is a gift and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Always remember this and keep it in your heart. Love has its own time,
its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot
bribe it or coerce it, or even reason it into staying. You can only
embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But
if it chooses to leave from you heart or from the heart of your lover,
there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love
always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to
live for a moment in your life.
It's Love
Tuesday, July 15, 2008, 03:24 PM AWST [Romance and Relationships]
Maria,
PeterIt's true we cannot choose with whom we fall in love, nor can we choose who falls in love with us. I think The Main Ingredient had it best in their song "EVERYBODY PLAYS THE FOOL".
As a man I can tell you it is painful to fall in love and find it is not returned; it is also painful to have to turn down someone you like as a friend but do not want to take to another degree. I am still haunted by a woman I knew when I was stationed in Chicago who fell in love with me and we were great friends but I could not take it to that level.
I have thought of calling her several times-it's been years since we spoke because I told her it was just getting too intense-but a friend of mine (another woman) said it would be more cruel to call her and seem to lead her on. I live in NYC now since leaving Chicago but I still feel like a crud since I made her so unhappy-although that was not my wish!
As the song goes, "and now you cry, and when you do, next time around, someone cries for you...everybody plays the fool, sometime, no exception to the rule...it may seem factual, may seem cruel, but everybody plays the fool..."
I've tried not to be an insensitive jerk but I still feel like a total jerk. All the best.
Peter
06:38 AM AWST